That movie line ''You complete me'' sounds so very romantic. We all like the idea of someone who feels like they can't live without us.
When you think about it a little more, wouldn't it be even more romantic to be with someone who chooses to be with us? Isn't it better to have that person love you without the ties of slavery? The most romantic thing in the world, to me, is that person choosing to be with me over everyone else just because I'm me.
It takes two whole people to make a healthy romantic relationship. It doesn't work properly otherwise. In this instance, two halves DO NOT make a whole; it just makes two halves. You cannot expect to find someone to complete you. You must complete yourself. You can then find that someone who will complete the relationship.
The other person can't make up the deficiencies in you. It is not his (or her) job, and it is not what you should expect from someone you love. No matter how much in love two people are (or think they are), they are still two separate people! If you truly love someone, you respect and adore them as an individual, not as an extension of yourself.
Being a whole person doesn't mean have someone else to complete you. Being a whole person means finding your happiness in yourself. You can never be truly happy if that happiness is dependent on another person. You will always end up being disappointed, and it will be your own fault.
True happiness is a choice we each make for ourselves. It is something we can share willingly with others in relationships, romantic and otherwise. It is not something we can take by force from another person. Essentially, that is what we are trying to do when we are using someone else to complete ourselves.
When two whole people are in any kind of relationship, the love for the other individual allows them to grow and change without damaging the bond they share.
Isn't that romantic? *sigh*
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